Why Words Matter

Children are very impressionable, so the words they hear from parents, teachers, television and friends can influence them in a negative or positive way.  For this reason, be intentional with the words that you use around children. Here are easy five tips to follow.

1.Choose your words carefully

Use words that are kind, uplifting and caring.  Do not use curse words, and consider how simple statements could negatively impact your child. It is also important to avoid statements such as: ‘you’re a failure,’ ‘what’s wrong with you?’ and more.  When you are talking to children, be thoughtful and diplomatic in your approach and be a positive role model for them.  

2. Teach your children manners

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Using manners is one of the most important things children will ever learn. Young children are very receptive to learning manners, so ensure you teach them please, thank you, excuse me and sorry.  If children need more support around using manners; enlist the help of picture books, songs and games and turn it into a fun learning experience. 

3. Affirmations

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Affirmations are positive statements that reprogram the mind to change negative thoughts into positive thoughts.  For instance, a garden full of weeds equals negative thoughts; while a flower garden equals positive thoughts. The idea is to remove the weeds and replace them with flowers. Teach your children affirmations that they can use. This can be incorporated with the alphabet, for example:

A = I am amazing, B = I am brave, C = I am confident. Or, I am strong, I am smart, I am confident, or I am a kind and caring person.  

Activity: Encourage children to make their own affirmations with drawings. 

4. THINK acronym

Teach your child how their words can positively or negatively affect someone’s day. The THINK acronym is perfect to teach children.  When children speak; they should consider whether what they’re saying is: (T) true, (H) honest, (I) inspiring, (N) necessary and (K) kind.

5. Word power

Japanese Scientist Masuru Emoto, discovered that water holds memory and water crystals respond positively or negatively to different energies such as music and words.  The famous rice experiment shows three containers of rice – one with negative words, one with positive words, and one with no words. The experiment showed how the state and colour of the rice was affected by both the spoken words and written words on the container.  

Activity: Watch this rice experiment video and try it with your children.  Go to: rice experiment  and watch Dr Emoto’s Water Experiment

Words matter.  Teach your children to create a kinder world by making positive word choices.

Helen Anderson – Kindness Cultivator

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